Pain is inevitable but suffering is optional

So true. Think about it. Whenever something bad happens, expectedly or unexpectedly, you are bound to feel the pain. If the thing doesn’t give you enough pain , it is not bad. Now it depends on you on how you take it. There are only two options: one is that you brood over it and suffer. You spend days crying and cribbing and in the end nothing fruitful will be obtained. The other option is that you move on. Take a lesson from it, learn from your mistakes and try to amend them. Even if you think you are not at fault, try not to play a blame game. Accept that what has happened has happened and you can in no way reverse it. Derive positives out of the negative circumstances. As the saying goes , whatever happens, happens for best. So ultimately its up to you to decide whether you want to convert your pain to a suffering or be positive, overcome it and handle situation in a matured manner.

Patience pays.... Does it really???

I was a strong believer in this saying but things changed and so did my beliefs. In today’s fast moving world, is it really advisable to be patient and wait for good things to happen to you. World is running fast. Everyone is involved in the rat race.  You have to run too to catch up with them and rather try and get ahead of them. True that it is good to be patient but at the same time one should also remember that excess of everything is bad.  You have to put some efforts yourself and then be patient and wait for results. Again if the results are not in your favour, don’t lose hope and try to analyze what went wrong and where. Learn from your mistakes and work again ensuring that you don’t commit those mistakes again. So go ahead, be patient but only after you have done something to wait for.

Expectations and more

 “Don’t expect anything from anyone”, a friend advised me once. I wanted to follow that advice because I knew that it would bring me enormous relief. But then not expecting is not an easy thing. There are expectations in every relationship, family as well as friends. The moment you come close to a person, you start expecting something or the other from him. If the other person does not meet your expectations you tend to feel bad over it.  The solution to this problem is not, not expecting anything from the other person rather expecting from yourself that you won’t be sad if the person doesn’t meet your expectations. I know that it is complicated but still its better to stand up to your own expectations rather than expecting someone else to stand upto them. I don’t believe in absence of expectations for if I am not expecting anything from a person, i am not close to him. If you are putting something in a relationship, you always expect something back. There is nothing called a selfless deed. Even if a person is doing some social service, he does it for inner satisfaction and expects a little praise from  the society.  So dont be shy while expecting but remember conditions apply!!!

Opinions and Discussions

Should i do this or that? Am i following the correct path? Am i right or wrong? We come across such situations so often. Its almost an everyday routine. The easiest path here is to seek someone’s advice. It can be a friend, a colleague or a family member. But maybe the mistake we commit during the process is that we don’t seek advice of say one or two persons. We tend to ask as many people as we can and this is from where the problem begins. Our opinion about a certain matter is overshadowed by so many other opinions that it gets lost somewhere in the middle and we start following the path as directed by others. What is important in such cases is that though we should listen to all the opinions, we should always reason out before discarding our argument. So next time you are discussing an issue with a friend, remember that his job is only advising you, yours is to decide whether to take his advice or not.