Pain is inevitable but suffering is optional

So true. Think about it. Whenever something bad happens, expectedly or unexpectedly, you are bound to feel the pain. If the thing doesn’t give you enough pain , it is not bad. Now it depends on you on how you take it. There are only two options: one is that you brood over it and suffer. You spend days crying and cribbing and in the end nothing fruitful will be obtained. The other option is that you move on. Take a lesson from it, learn from your mistakes and try to amend them. Even if you think you are not at fault, try not to play a blame game. Accept that what has happened has happened and you can in no way reverse it. Derive positives out of the negative circumstances. As the saying goes , whatever happens, happens for best. So ultimately its up to you to decide whether you want to convert your pain to a suffering or be positive, overcome it and handle situation in a matured manner.